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Theme by Fuse Powered by Tumblr. All right… I mentioned this and a few of you asked me to write it, so here goes. So when I first heard about Fifty Shades of Greyway back in the beginning of its popularity, when it was just peeking its way into the mainstream, I was floored.

Women were eating it up, and it was gaining steam quickly. This is huge, I thought. I remembered writing an article about the lifestyle for my column in my college newspaper and getting lambasted by friends and acquaintances who thought I was a freak. This is it. Then, when I found out what it was really all about, my bubble burst. In Fifty Shades, there is no mention of safety, no semblance of respect. Anastasia is constantly taking part in activities that she is unsure about, where no limits have been discussed or agreed upon.

Christian is into BDSM only because he was abused as. This series only reinforces all of the terrible things our society believes about BDSM. Safe al: A al that, if used during play, lets others know that they need to stop: like dropping an object. Often used when a partner is gagged. Note that this is never mentioned or even alluded to in Fifty Shades. I like to look at these three words in another light. Actually, they are about trust, openness, and communication. Before play, hard and soft limits are set; for example, I might say to my partner that a hard limit for me is watersports. A soft limit would be blood play.

This way, neither partner ever has to feel uncomfortable about what is happening during play. In Fifty Shades, there is no discussion about limits: no openness, no communication. Anastasia is often afraid that Christian will beat her. Sadism and masochism are still defined as paraphilias in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, real life bdsm tumblr it should be noted that a paraphilia is not diagnosable as a psychiatric disorder unless it causes distress to the individual or harm to others.

Though this is true for a small percentage, it is not the case for all. Research has shown there is no difference in mental health difficulties between those who practice BDSM and the rest of the population. What else has kink research found? Those who practice BDSM rate their sexual satisfaction higher and have been found to often have high-status jobs and higher IQs than the general population. Pamela Stephenson Connolly, inalso did a study of people in the BDSM community to determine if BDSM participants were psychologically disturbed, and found that the group was not mentally unhealthy.

My favorite example is that of a rape roleplay. By its very nature, rape is about nonconsent. However, some couples choose to incorporate real life bdsm tumblr into their daily life. Or, we play for the day: most recently, he spent all day playing dominant Loki to my submissive Natasha as we spent all day out and about.

Early on in the day, I was trained: I learned that disobedience would earn me a harsh slap, or a rough pull of the hair. It was a thrill to give up complete control for the day. Most professional dominatrixes, for example, do not provide sexual services to their clients.

Legally Bound In 50 Shades, Anastasia must a contract. A contract like this is only ed by couples who enter into a Total Power Exchange relationship in which the dominant has complete authority over the submissive at all times. There is a good article on the elements of a contract here.

This is also the time to talk about the session and what both partners liked and disliked. Like I said before, communication is key. Some experienced BDSM practitioners, and partners who know each other well, sometimes leave this step out. It often depends on the intensity of play, as well. No one would ever do this. Questions I have a fulfilling, exciting, healthy sex life.

I have a solid relationship, in which my husband and I are completely open with each other and in which communication is a priority. BDSM has enriched our relationship, and not only sexually; I firmly believe our communication skills have improved as a result. If you have questions, please inbox me and I will answer them to the best of my ability. If any of this struck a chord, reblog.

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